lets talk about sex baby
when is it the right time?
i mean, it's all i've been thinking about lately. i don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing. when is it the right time? after 6 months? after a year? should you be able to tell the person you love them and mean it? 'cause nowadays, i don't think loving the person or not really matters. and that's the sad thing. i don't love him. i wouldn't take a bullet for him. but when do you know that you love someone? do you just wake up one morning and know. i mean, i've said it to boyfriends in the past. but the funny thing is, i don't talk to them anymore. i'm not close with them anymore. i've never been in love, although i thought it at the time. so how do you know when you truly love someone? and do you have to be attached to them in every way in order to love them? and then i think.. does loving them really matter? and then i smack myself for even questioning that because of course it matters! you don't want to do it, and then feel empty and feel like scum afterwards. you want to know that that person is still gonna be there after. you want to know that just because you've done it with that person, it's not the end and they're not gonna be gone just like that. it's kind of like this. say you have a project in biology or something. and you want to get honours. the teacher gives you the criteria for passing. well, if honours is having sex, then what's the criteria? what do you need to have and do and be to do it? i'm sure it's different for everyone. and that's where things get complicated. say your criteria involves being able to say that you love the person and mean it and you must be in a working relationship with the person.. but what if the other persons criteria is different? they don't need all that to do it with someone. then i think.. if it was the right time and the right person, then it shouldn't be this hard. it should be the easiest decision, right?
2 comments:
I think sex is just one of those things that happens. You don't plan it. Sometimes I think you should love the person because lets face it, you never forget your first time like all the awkwardness and stuff but then sometimes I think it shouldn't matter
and that you should just get it over with
because you're gona end up doing it again anyways
I honestly have no idea though
sorry =(
you can overthink it, overthink it and overthink it some more but when it comes down to it, it's all gonna happen when it's supposed to and i would base the decision on being able to trust the person. don't base it on love because as much as u'd like to think so it's not there yet. Also before u do that ur gonna have to be able to face the fact that ur not gonna be together forever cuz u get so attached after u actually make the decision to do that. so before u do that think about whether or not ur willing to be that attached to that person cuz it's gonna hurt so much when u have to let go.
thats just my opinion after thinking about my experiences. hopefully it helps a lil. but either way which ever u wanna do just be sure ur happy cuz i love u no matter wat. haha
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